Thursday 17 August 2017

Pussy… How a simple word has been hijacked

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Many of us follow with dismay what seems like a long list of appalling acts by President Donald Trump. As a Sexologist, one issue that keeps coming back to the forefront is the “pussy grabbing” incident. Some people have gone so far as saying that the word “pussy” has now been hijacked by President Trump, as they can’t hear it without thinking of him grabbing a woman by the “pussy”.

First and foremost, it is crucial to understand the legal implications of this matter. Any unwanted sexual touching or grabbing is sexual assault. Getting consent is paramount in any sexual activity and no one should be above the law. Mostly not someone in a position of power and in the public eye such as the president of the United States. What are we teaching the younger generations if we let this happen and not speak up? The results will be twofold: girls will grow up thinking that men are allowed to touch, grab, and use their bodies without them having a say in the matter, and boys will grow up never learning to respect women, and taking whatever they want /need from women without their consent. CONSENT: an agreement between participants to engage in sexual activity. This word is essential to this conversation. Without it you have sexual assault or rape.

Many individuals prefer describing genitals with cute words like “flower”, “pussy”, “pee pee”, “weenie”, etc in order to diminish the shock value. It is quite sad to think that we teach “head, shoulder, knees and toes” but we miss a huge section right in the middle where we are too ashamed to call a vulva a vulva. If we are stuck with pseudonyms when talking about our junk, let’s bring back the playfulness the word “pussy” used to carry. The word itself is not a bad word. It describes something cute and fluffy, and most of us use it to infuse innocence when used in sexual play. As with any other word, the way you say it carries more meaning than the word itself. Let’s not punish the word but the INTENT. How about using “pussy” in a sex positive manner which elevates women and their power instead of taking it away.

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As a Clinical Sexologist, Dr. Renee Lanctot believes that sex can be fun for both partners in any relationship. Whether you are after your first orgasm or looking for a deeper and more meaningful sexual experience, she has the information and the “tricks” to help you get there. Dr Renee Lanctot, is a Clinical Sexologist, Sex Coach and Sexual Health Educator and can be found at www.drsexology.com